I came across this post titled We are in the Trenches of Parenthood recently and thought what a fitting revelation to my life at the moment.
We just had our second son in November 2014 during which time our daughter also turned 3. It has definitely been a struggle trying to adjust to a newborn and a toddler, dealing with the escalated toddler tantrums and jealousies, and surviving on short bursts of sleep. My typical day involves lots of screaming, then regretting it, then feeling guilty which results in me trying to be nice and sweet to accommodate my daughter, then feeling frustrated over situations that are not in my control anymore, feeling guilty again, then feeling ecstatic to be a mother of 2 wonderful kids during a picture perfect moment, then feeling guilty again…you see a pattern here?
To quote the writer of the above-mentioned article:
These are some of the most exhausting years, but we also realize they’re some of the best. So we are trying to look past the snot-filled public tantrums and focus on the sweet and tender moments when our nearly 3 year-old says things like, “You’re the best. I love you so much.”
– See more at: http://www.yummymummyclub.ca/blogs/jen-warman-new-freakin-mummy/20150102/we-are-in-the-trenches-of-parenthood#sthash.ecfXYrNN.dpuf
Ah yes, it’s those moments when my baby boy smiles at me as he’s starting to recognize my face, and when my daughter asks me in the most sweetest tone if i’m her best friend that I completely melt and all the fatigue and chaos of the day becomes insignificant. And then a few minutes later I snap out of that surreal moment when I hear another scream.
Time surely does fly and our kids will eventually become independent and stop needing us so much. So we just have to keep reminding ourselves that it’s only for a few more years! Until then, try to hold on to your sanities.