They say it can take women up to six months or even a year to shed the weight we put on during pregnancy, not weeks. Yet, we have seen celebrities do it almost immediately and I’m starting to see women I know in real life wanting to and trying very hard to shed the extra weight as soon as possible after pregnancy.
First of all everyone’s body type is different and some gain more and some gain less weight during pregnancy. Women have different reasons to lose weight right away including trying to get back into a normal routine, to make themselves feel and look better, especially if they have always had weight issues, and for some it’s just plain vanity. Still, it boggles my mind why some women rush to lose the baby weight within the first 2 months itself when they should be focusing on just relaxing and loving the new life they brought into this world.
Nutrition and health should definitely start even prior to pregnancy and continue throughout the pregnancy. It is important to stay active and eat healthy. Women have to realize that they don’t need to eat for 2 during the pregnancy, although some days it feels like a whole village is hungry down in your stomach. I should know…..I’m a hungry gal. Whether pregnant or not I eat about 6 meals a day and eat really good portions. Now that I’m pregnant with my second child, my appetite has increased so much that I want to eat anything in sight when I’m hungry.
However, every woman is different. Some may eat very little and gain lots of weight and others don’t tend to gain weight even from binge eating. Regardless of this, pregnancy and motherhood is a special time for women. Instead of stressing about what other people think and trying to lose weight immediately, why not embrace that special time and focus on the newborn? It is a short-lived stage in the grander scheme of things.
Regardless of how much weight I put on by the end of this pregnancy, I won’t be in a rush to lose those extra pounds right away. Here’s why:
- It’s completely normal for women to take atleast 6 months or even up to a year to lose the extra weight…after all it took atleast 9 months to gain it!
- I will rather focus on bonding with my newborn than worrying about any extra fat.
- I do not plan on going on a beach bikini challenge any time soon.
- I do care about how I look, but I could care less about how others think I should look.
- Who in their right mind would have the guts to tell me to my face that I still have those extra pounds. If they do, I’d love to use this quote from Sex and the City when Miranda goes out to a bar after having a baby and responds to a jerk’s comment: “My ass is fat because I just had a baby……….so what’s your excuse?” Don’t worry I have many more up my sleeve.
- I intend to breastfeed my second child up to a year just like I did with my first (and even longer if I could) and I would need to focus on eating well and not stressing out my body during that time. Also, many women don’t realize that you burn up to 500 calories a day breastfeeding. Without any exercise, that’s how I lost most, if not all of my extra weight during my first pregnancy.
- My fat could provide a nice cuddly place for the baby to sleep without me spending money on extra pillows.
- Losing weight quickly can create loose skin just like gaining weight quickly can contribute to stretch marks.
- My close friends and family are there for support and will not make me feel conscious of my body .
- There are no quick fixes when it comes to weight. What could I possibly do in a healthy way during the first 2 months to lose all that weight so quickly? I’ll be trying to catch naps in between my baby’s naps (if he/she naps at all), taking care of my toddler, breastfeeding, eating, showering, changing diapers etc.
So if you see me after I have my baby and I still look pregnant, then maybe it’s wise not to make any comments.
No seriously, just know that I chose to stay that way for the betterment of my baby’s and my own health. A lot of women probably chose the same situation so you should learn not to judge them for their appearance. Giving birth is a blessing and making the time to take care of her children and putting them first is one of the greatest gifts a mother can give and one of the greatest sacrifices she makes.
So to all my body-conscious mommas out there, please think about what a miracle your body went through and appreciate it. Love the skin you’re in and everything else will fall into place in its own time.