What’s with all the hate on skinny girls these days? Is it suddenly cool? Having been a skinny girl and far from being curvy for many years, I can’t stand to see all this sudden backlash on skinny women.
I’m not trying to undermine all the efforts on fighting eating disorders, portrayal of women in media over the years and how far we have come in influencing the fashion industry to redefine their beauty standards. But why do we have to celebrate bigger women by putting down smaller women? Shouldn’t we accept all women and celebrate beauty in all shapes and sizes?
Is the phrase “You’re such a skinny bitch” any better than “You’re such a fat bitch”? I don’t think this language should be acceptable in any circumstances. With Nicki Manaj screaming “Fu*k those skinny bitches, F*ck those skinny bitches in the club, I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the motherfu*king club, fu*k you if you skinny bitches.” and Meghan Trainor singing “bringing booty back”, which way do we want the scale to tip now? Young girls who are not yet developed into their so-called “womanly” curves are feeling just as insecure and embarassed as girls who are overweight.
I’m seriously happy for curvy ladies that they got a lot of love going on, but what I don’t like is that they themselves are turning into hypocrites and starting to hate on other women just because they are not as well endowed. We women have enough societal pressure to look, dress, act and talk a certain way as it is; we don’t need to keep reinforcing hate and stereotypes amongst ourselves when we should all be standing strong and celebrating together.
Quote statistics if you may, and claim that bigger women have been unfairly stereotyped and deprived of opportunities, but being someone who actually struggled to put on weight and wanted to “fit” in with the curvier stereotypes, I can tell you that body image is an issue on the other side too.
Laugh if you may but I used to eat junk food to try to plump myself up because being image conscious is not just limited to bigger people.
Why on earth would anyone want to get fat, you ask? Well why on earth would a size 8 woman who is beautiful think she’s fat and want to lose weight? It’s because it doesn’t matter what size they are, women are so critical of their bodies, and when they see images of beauty that they strive for then there begins the battle with their own body image.
Before you start putting down skinny people, think for a minute that they may also have a medical issue, or are battling their inner demons telling them that they’re not womanly enough, not curvy enough to fit into the latest fashion outfits, or not pretty enough like the latest pop sensations. It should not matter if you have a flat butt, flat chest, big butt or big chest, we should help women accept their body shape and be confident about it. This can start with us teaching our kids to love each other regardless or how they look. The same issues do exist for men as they also have the pressure to look a certain way, with ”ripped” muscles and bulkier frame being perceived to be manlier than the smaller frame.
Several people reading this may laugh and shake their heads and won’t believe that this is a real issue, but I am talking about real people with feelings and not fictional characters. We should learn to accept all different body types. I can only dream of the day when body shape and size becomes insignificant enough to not even be a part of the beauty equation.
Let’s celebrate each other for who we are and not put each other down for being on different scales.
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