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How young is too young for consent?

Belfast Telegraph writers have their say on primary school sex education proposals that have caused controversy

Ontario Health Curriculum is all poised to introduce the language of ‘consent’ to elementary school children in the health curriculum and the idea has been getting quite of a mixed reaction from parents of Ontario.  It seems most of the negative feedback is deriving from lack of understanding of the curriculum or from an ostrich-with-head-in-sand scenario.

Before you ask, “you’re ok with teaching sexual consent to elementary children?”, let me explain that it’s not what the curriculum is set out to bring on.  Consent on its own means ‘permission for something to happen or agreement to do something’; it has nothing to do with sex.  Consent in hand in hand with health education would mean children learning about what’s appropriate touching, them having a say in how their bodies are treated by others, ways of showing approval/disapproval of an act that involves their bodies and feelings – while they’re already learning about body parts, reproductive methods, healthy living & etc.  Does this sound completely out of the box considering our society doesn’t seem to be very clear as to what’s appropriate and what’s not when it comes to sexual consent/aggressiveness…let alone how these lines are quite blurry from one person to the next, one culture to the next, one generation to the next & even one community to the next – Sexual Harassment: not so black & white


Isn’t it better children from a young age learn about appropriate behavior, boundaries on what’s ok for them and what feels irky?  And, isn’t it better that when in such uncomfortable, disagreeable situations, they know how to get out of it and know what their personal space and rights are invaded?

Do you consent for your child to learn about consent and know their options?  Or, do you feel it’s opening up a can of worms?


The rocky road of parenthood

I came across this post titled We are in the Trenches of Parenthood  recently and thought what a fitting revelation to my life at the moment.

We just had our second son in November 2014 during which time our daughter also turned 3. It has definitely been a struggle trying to adjust to a newborn and a toddler, dealing with the escalated toddler tantrums and jealousies, and surviving on short bursts of sleep. My typical day involves lots of screaming, then regretting it, then feeling guilty which results in me trying to be nice and sweet to accommodate my daughter, then feeling frustrated over situations that are not in my control anymore, feeling guilty again, then feeling ecstatic to be a mother of 2 wonderful kids during a picture perfect moment, then feeling guilty again…you see a pattern here?

To quote the writer of the above-mentioned article:

These are some of the most exhausting years, but we also realize they’re some of the best. So we are trying to look past the snot-filled public tantrums and focus on the sweet and tender moments when our nearly 3 year-old says things like, “You’re the best. I love you so much.”

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Ah yes, it’s those moments when my baby boy smiles at me as he’s starting to recognize my face, and when my daughter asks me in the most sweetest tone if i’m her best friend that I completely melt and all the fatigue and chaos of the day becomes insignificant. And then a few minutes later I snap out of that surreal moment when I hear another scream.

Time surely does fly and our kids will eventually become independent and stop needing us so much. So we just have to keep reminding ourselves that it’s only for a few more years! Until then, try to hold on to your sanities.


Your take on Valentine’s Day

As we come out of the Valentine’s Day weekend, especially as it fell on the infamous dating day of Saturday, what’s your take on Valentine’s Day?  It seems some of us like to mark the day with something special with their significant other in the thoughts of professing their love for each other.  Some despise the day as it’s a highly commercialized day of gift giving, dining out & everything that’s fancy.  And, the rest – like me – move pass the day as it’s another day without any significance to me and hubby. View full post »

Where are you on vaccines?

With the measles outbreak in Toronto over the past two weeks and the unexplained connection among those who have contracted it nor any travels in the near past that might explain the contraction, most of the public are concerned about the factors that’ll contribute to their own possibilities.  With that concern, come about those who choose not to get vaccinated, especially to young children as measles is very contagious and can be easily passed on in surroundings like schools and daycare centres.

There are worries about vaccines and their connection to autism stemming from reports in the 1990s and there are concerns about unvaccinated bodies having a much more impact due to illnesses such as measles and even more concerns about them passing on the illness to others in public spaces.

It’s apparent that among those who choose to go against vaccines, there’s a cult-like group characteristics and any member even questioning or toying with the idea of vaccines are said to be strongly shunned and demonized from the group.  One North-American mom expressed on a radio interview how she was instantly deleted from her no-vaccine group when she expressed her desire to vaccinate her child upon finding convincing research to do so.  She was also subsequently disconnected from other members of the group and shunned from connecting with them on matters other than vaccinations.

Although this is a matter of opinion, is it ok for non-medical persons to take the decision into their hands?  Yes, the claim can be, “my child, my choice”, but how about what that child might pass onto those who wish to be vaccinated and be shielded from such illnesses?  Where do you stand on this very confusing, controversy-ridden topic?