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You’re such a skinny b*tch!

What’s with all the hate on skinny girls these days? Is it suddenly cool? Having been a skinny girl and far from being curvy for many years, I can’t stand to see all this sudden backlash on skinny women.

I’m not trying to undermine all the efforts on fighting eating disorders, portrayal of women in media over the years and how far we have come in influencing the fashion industry to redefine their beauty standards. But why do we have to celebrate bigger women by putting down smaller women? Shouldn’t we accept all women and celebrate beauty in all shapes and sizes?


Is the phrase “You’re such a skinny bitch” any better than “You’re such a fat bitch”? I don’t think this language should be acceptable in any circumstances. With Nicki Manaj screaming “Fu*k those skinny bitches, F*ck those skinny bitches in the club, I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the motherfu*king club, fu*k you if you skinny bitches.” and Meghan Trainor singing “bringing booty back”, which way do we want the scale to tip now? Young girls who are not yet developed into their so-called “womanly” curves are feeling just as insecure and embarassed as girls who are overweight.

I’m seriously happy for curvy ladies that they got a lot of love going on, but what I don’t like is that they themselves are turning into hypocrites and starting to hate on other women just because they are not as well endowed. We women have enough societal pressure to look, dress, act and talk a certain way as it is; we don’t need to keep reinforcing hate and stereotypes amongst ourselves when we should all be standing strong and celebrating together.

Quote statistics if you may, and claim that bigger women have been unfairly stereotyped and deprived of opportunities, but being someone who actually struggled to put on weight and wanted to “fit” in with the curvier stereotypes, I can tell you that body image is an issue on the other side too.

Laugh if you may but I used to eat junk food to try to plump myself up because being image conscious is not just limited to bigger people.

Why on earth would anyone want to get fat, you ask? Well why on earth would a size 8 woman who is beautiful think she’s fat and want to lose weight? It’s because it doesn’t matter what size they are, women are so critical of their bodies, and when they see images of beauty that they strive for then there begins the battle with their own body image.

Before you start putting down skinny people, think for a minute that they may also have a medical issue, or are battling their inner demons telling them that they’re not womanly enough, not curvy enough to fit into the latest fashion outfits, or not pretty enough like the latest pop sensations. It should not matter if you have a flat butt, flat chest, big butt or big chest, we should help women accept their body shape and be confident about it. This can start with us teaching our kids to love each other regardless or how they look. The same issues do exist for men as they also have the pressure to look a certain way, with ”ripped” muscles and bulkier frame being perceived to be manlier than the smaller frame.

Several people reading this may laugh and shake their heads and won’t believe that this is a real issue, but I am talking about real people with feelings and not fictional characters. We should learn to accept all different body types. I can only dream of the day when body shape and size becomes insignificant enough to not even be a part of the beauty equation.

Let’s celebrate each other for who we are and not put each other down for being on different scales.


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Toxic laundry

It seems that as soon as I eliminate something toxic from my life then I discover something else that needs to go. Becoming environmentally conscious or even aware about the chemicals in common household products seem to be exhausting these days.

Lately I’ve been searching for a natural alternative to using dryer sheets. I used to use them mainly for our linens and in the winter to eliminate static. However the fact that it is made up of endless chemicals is definitely disheartening. Not to mention the liquid fabric softeners that many of us use is also very toxic and contains many harmful chemicals.

If you go searching for the list of chemicals in fabric softener products you’ll find loads of information:

  • Benzyl acetate: Linked to pancreatic cancer.
  • Benzyl Alcohol: Upper respiratory tract irritant.
  • Ethanol: On the EPA’s Hazardous Waste list and can cause central  nervous system disorders.
  • Limonene: Suspected Gastrointestinal or Liver Toxicant,  Immunotoxicant, Kidney Toxicant, Neurotoxicant, Respiratory Toxicant,  and  Skin or Sense Organ Toxicant.
  • A-Terpineol: Can cause respiratory problems, including fatal edema,  and central nervous system damage.
  • Ethyl Acetate: A narcotic on the EPA’s Hazardous Waste list.
  • Camphor: Causes central nervous system disorders.
  • Chloroform: Neurotoxic, anesthetic and carcinogenic.
  • Linalool: A narcotic that causes central nervous system disorders.
  • Pentane: A chemical known to be harmful if inhaled.
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So I went searching for dryer balls that seem to be reusable, does not leave a chemical film on the clothes and cuts dryer time in half, but it turns out that they are mainly made of PVC *sigh*.

There are alternative products that are out there that may be not easily available but atleast they seem to exist.

First off, yes I realize that you can simply not use your dryer, but not sure how feasible it is for many families….especially those with kids. There are natural dryer balls that are made of wool. I haven’t yet tried them out but I see a lot of DIY instructions for making your own wool dryer balls that I am curious to try out.

I have also seen ‘natural’ fabric dryer sheets and recently I bought reusable dryer sheets with no chemicals or scent. I don’t care too much about clothes smelling like a pretty meadow, but I like the ‘anti-static’ properties of dryer sheets. So let’s see if these reusable dryer sheets live up to those promises.

If you’re really concerned about about these extra chemicals in your laundry, check out some of the natural alternatives that are out there such as adding vinegar to laundry, throwing in rolled up socks with laundry, using wool dryer balls etc.



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Skincare is a subject us girls just can’t get enough of.  There are always new ways of doing things, updated dos and don’ts and of course, the celebrity induced looks we sought after.  When it comes to skin and hair care, proper application/technique matter just as much as the product.  Some of us apply too much and the rest of us, too little – both cases don’t deliver the best results. View full post »

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I have gone back and forth on the whole issue of giving my daughter multivitamins. I am not a huge proponent of multivitamins for myself as I feel that a balanced and varied diet in itself is the natural multivitamin we need and sometimes taking a supplement gives us a false sense of protection.

But listening to other moms talk about various supplements and dealing with the frustrating aspect of constant illness during the early daycare years, I am always on the lookout to learn about these things to see if they have an effect on overall health. In reality I don’t want to be “that” mom who misses out on providing her child with something that could potentially benefit her.

Recently at Whole Foods Supermarket I saw an array of “natural” multivitamins and was wondering if there was any harm in even trying them. They all seemed promising and some seemed to be just like diet supplements. I have to admit I was standing there clueless, overwhelmed and then just decided to walk away.

Some parents claim the supplements act as an insurance policy although they eat a healthy diet. Others stay away from anything shaped like a favourite cartoon character as they feel pharmaceutical companies are just dictating our health. It really is a difficult decision. View full post »